What are qualities of a good leader? What are the characteristics of a good leader? What is leadership ?
We are unique individuals. We possess unique leadership quality to lead oneself, family and professional life, however conscience, clear vision, self confidence, strong determination and strong will power to take a wise decision at right time and at right place are core essential qualities of a leader. “Rajeev Ranjan
Student Misbehavior- parents responsible for children’s bad behavior
Human being understands language of love, emotion and passion. Educator handles 21st century kids in the school. Kids are active and smart. Sophisticated gadgets become essential need for survival. Nowadays, parent nurtures a child in a nucleus nature. 2010s decade born children are vocal and electronic gadgets lover. Parents wish to provide all the luxuries for their children, which a 1980s-1990s born parent might not used/might, not be available for them to use at that time. Parents are economically sound.
Every parent of this world is intelligent and intellectual personality for his kids. They think surely better for their kids. Children learn all the values right from tender age of habit formation. They watch each and every activity of their parent at home. Nowadays, parent offers his smart phone to the kids in a very tender age because child will be engaged and s/he could perform day to day task at home. Parent fulfills all the wishes of his kids. This activity satisfies need of both parent and child; parent feels relax and child also feels mental relax with voice, pictures, songs, video, video games etc. Every time we repeat same activities that lay the foundation of negative behavior in a child.
My friend mr. Yadav was in a party with his elder and younger son. His elder son (40 months old) child was watching a serial Bal Hanuman. Younger son (15 months old ) child was crying so Mr. Yadav wanted to give him mobile. When Mr. Yadav requested his elder son to give the mobile for his younger brother, he had thrown the mobile in the ground and ran away from there. I was completely confused to see all these activities. In fact this is common scene in country side as well as urban area. Who is responsible for this act? Who will be cursed for this act?
Illiterate, literate, educated and uneducated parent stated several times in informal or formal communication, “ I think, (a) child should not be pressurized (b) I do not give pressure on my child (c) child does not study in a pressure (d) sir, s/he does not hear anyone in the family (e) sir, s/he is very rigid (f) sir, his mind is very sharp, s/he operates Smart phone very fast (g) sir, s/he does not want to write on notebook. If I ask something, s/he replies very fast but does not write at all. I stuck at the moment, (a) who will correct them (b) who is responsible for this rigid behavior (c) if a child does not listen/hear/obey his/her father/mother at home; how will s/he hear/obey teacher at school and in the classroom?
Parent spends a lot of money on paying school fee. S/he wishes her child to be a unique person. Parent builds child’s strong personality at home. Whatever a child learns at home, s/he carries it to the school and classroom. Parent inculcates different human values at home.
A paradoxical situation is occurred in child life. Parent allows child to do all good and bad things without any obstruction and reminder at home but expect different school stakeholder teacher, principal and other person to inculcate all human values. Homeschooling fails to do it; formal schooling fails to create magical effect in the school which resulted in a conflict personality.
Parent is an image builder. A child learns a lot of values at home. Parent’s nurturing style makes a big difference. When a child passes through a tender age, parent ignores all his/her mistakes and fulfills all demands unconditionally. Parent wants to provide the best facility available in the society. We treat each and every bad behavior of a child as his/her childish nature but we forget that child is framing a behavior, a habit and an attitude which is not good for both the stakeholders. Gradually, we start noticing that child becomes so rigid and inflexible. Once a child frames a set of good or bad habit, it becomes too much difficult to mould in positive direction. Parent feels unable to control because now child does not listen/obey his parent. Child has his own condition to do several activities. Parent becomes apprehensive and fearful to take necessary action to mould his behavior.
Parents nurturing style at home plays crucial role in child’s behavior formations. Why does a child misbehave at school? Does a parent instill values at home? We observe various reasons for child misbehavior at home and at school.
Ill treated parents
Child is nature. S/he blooms in the lap of parental field. Proper development of a child is prime responsibility of a parent. Generally we observe in family, society and school that sensible parent nurtures his/her child sensibly. If a parent is not so much caring for his/her kids and s/he does not want to spend time with kids, then his kids do not show moderate behavior at school.
No guardianship at home
Parent physical presence at home makes a big difference but if a parent is present at home but does not care his kids can create too big difference. It creates a void in a child’s life. Sensible guardianship at home helps child to behave properly at home. Child becomes a torn personality.
Lack of poor observation and guidance at home
Mother plays great role in shaping a child as a good human being. Mother usually shares her observation with husband and finally they take a wise decision for their kids. If parent could not keep his/her child in proper observation and if s/he fails to guide child in right direction then child becomes a torn personality.
Over protected and over possessed students
If a parent is so much possessive and over protective for his/her child, then child forms a negative attitude which reflects everywhere i.e. in family, society and school. Over protective child customizes each and everything according to his/her wish and present himself as a victim before parent. Parent takes this issue as an ego-“my son/my daughter”. 21st century kids are smart. They know their parent weakness. This attitude outcome is always negative. Generally it is observed that overprotective and over possessive parent misbehaves with teacher in school, shouts in school office or so and so many. Parent’s pampered students
So many parents feel too much pride for their son and daughters. They pamper their child. Pampered child behaves same as over protected and over possessed child.
Having feelings of superiority complex or inferiority complex due to various individual as well as environmental aspects i.e. educated family, uneducated family, poor or wealthy life styles, physical stature. School is a pious place. Everyone wears same uniform and studies under a same roof. Everyone pays same amount of school fee. Sometimes it is observed that it is parent who develops a superiority complex in his/her child; his child behavior is not praiseworthy in the school.
We are living in a globalized world. Everyone has same opportunity to avail existing facilities in this world. A wise parent develops positive attitude right at the beginning of childhood. Gradually, child becomes habituated to show human values with parent, family members, society and teachers.
Wise parent develops his child as a sensible citizen who cares for self and society. A child is a child; pure, pious and virtuous. Parenting makes a big difference. Let, be a smart and sensible parent for nurturing a better world citizen !
Sex Education for Children: Need To Implement Effective Sexuality Education Programme
Child is curious to explore the known and unknown world’s myth. What do we hide? What can we not hide from children? Why could we not hide from our kids? Do we hide the truth? Could we share the truth to avoid a child being a conflict personality? Child is very sensitive. If a mature adult cannot control his desire and passion; then how can we expect same from our child? Generally it is observed that if we do not share some crucial information by considering their age and mental status, they try to discover it on their own way.
Learning is transmittable and communicable. Child is very active learner. He wants to learn so many things at a time. Relevant knowledge about sexual health and our body is certainly help a kid for living a healthy life. Children need to be protected. Sex is a simple phenomenon. Sex may be devastating physically and mentally traumatic when we have no knowledge about this.
World Health Organization data on puberty, menstruation, reproduction, contraception, pregnancy, abortion, unsafe abortions, homosexuality and premarital sex and sexually transmitted disease awakes and alerts us to consider sex education as demand of time. We think positively about sex education or to keep the mouth shut on behalf of cultural background but situation is alarming on world level.
We need to consider and ensure proper sexual health knowledge from a 5 year old child to 18 years young people. UNESCO data on Sexual Health can be worried us. Situation is more or less same in developed and developing countries. I was not amazed to read several statistical data on watching pornography related materials in all over world. More than thousands million viewers (age between 6-18) visits thousands of sexual related websites. Viewers (age between 6-18) from different corners of the world endorsed their involvement in watching videos and indulged in sexual activities which resulted in bad health, premature pregnancy, and sexually transmitted disease due to unprotected and unhygienic sexual activities.
We know the negative effect of unprotected and unhygienic sexual activities due to lack of knowledge of sex as well as lack of sharing and caring within family circle. How long can we hide the fact? How long can we treat sex and sexual health as taboo for the society? There is only one truth that sex is core issue for us right from the evolvement of human society. It is not exaggerated to say that human civilization invented fire at first but human civilization were first felt the need of sex. Sex is such a natural phenomenon but still sex education is one of the most complex issues in 21st century globalized village. Debates are going on whether to provide sex education or not and its negative as well as positive impact on kids as well as society. In fact it is more critical and crucial issue for developing a child as an integrated personality.
We cannot avoid sex and we cannot stop people to feel intrinsic and natural desire for it and of course, strong charm for sex but certainly we can channelize sexual urge in right direction. Friend, parent and teacher can ignore the question raised by a child (6-17) but World Wide Web (www) welcomes our question and responds quickly with millions and millions of answer within .0001 second. We find an endless world of most extreme images and videos and next second a new story begins in a fraction of second. It would be worth mentioning about a state Bihar where national population council surveyed unmarried young generation (15-19 years) and the data is 14.1 % of unmarried adolescent boys and 6.3 % of unmarried adolescent girls had premarital sex; and of them, 22 % boys and 28.5 % girls had premarital sex before 15 years. Story is big but fact is very simple. Can be sensitize our last decade born generation about sexual health issues? Can we ensure our last decade born generation to receive accurate, authentic and age appropriate information related to sexual health and sexuality?
Integration of sophisticated technology and fast growing world of World Wide Web (WWW) have been equipped young generation (5-17 years) with latest technology to use but major issues to train this group of people “how to use”, “when to use” and “why to use”; considering about these constructive as well as destructive weapons should be the sole concern for educated and intellectual society, otherwise we will develop a torn and conflict personality for next decades. This generation (5-17years) explores world of sex every day. They try to know everything but they pretend to be unknown person. They indulge in it since it is our intrinsic need, which resulted in an unhealthy life, premature pregnancy, unsystematic abortion and carries transmitted disease HIV.
It is high time. We cannot stop using latest and sophisticated technology, exploring sex and sexual world, getting into it but we can surely educate them about “how to use”, “when to use” and “why to use” and “how much to use”. No doubt at all, almost all of us may have faced same dilemma but we have to accept this challenge to educate our kids, to aware our kids and sensitize our kids about the value of word “sex” in a wider perspective. It is essence of life. We can cover, conceal and hide but cannot ignore and avoid it in our life; therefore global citizen needs to develop global perspective and global acceptance for providing “sex education” for the welfare of 21st century young generation. Educated and intellectual society need to go one step ahead and sensitize our young generation (5-17 years) to become a healthy person. What do you think? Lets us think together for shaping a world class integrated citizen!
Yoga and Meditation are most scientific, practical and observable phenomena not only in 21st century but right from the rise of civilization. India is the mother place of “Yoga and Mediation”. Of course, credit goes to Patanjali who explored the beauty of Yoga before the world. Earlier there was some confusion regarding scientific and practical approach of yoga in western civilization. It is really interesting facts that now each and every corner of the world has been taken notice about the impact of yoga and meditation in day to day life.
We are living in globalized village. Attitude and aptitude of person have been completely changed. Much focus has been given to individual freedom and nuclear family. Materialistic world became intruders of each one life. World became mechanistic. Everyone is running behind everything. People are losing their self identity. Industrialization has its own impact on common man. People are living in such confusion and chaos life. In fact, individual is on verge to break into pieces.
Why do we need to integrate “Yoga and Meditation” in our Life?
1. Yoga and meditation integrate our body and mind
Yoga and meditation are integration of mind and body. It dissolves at a point. It helps us to keep us physically and mentally awakened and alive.
2. Excellent tool and techniques to keep mentally healthy
Yoga and meditation provide freedom to an individual to practice it at any place and anywhere. An individual can practice it while travelling on a train/bus/aeroplane. We need only a space for sitting comfortably. An individual can perform meditation even in bed before sleeping. We can exercise it without taking stress of time. We feel free to do it for 5 minutes or 25 minutes in a day. There is no bar of morning, afternoon or day and night. Everything is in our hand and depends on our will to practice it regularly. This is beauty of yoga and meditation.
The posture should be steady and should be very, very blissful, comfortable. If you can steady and comfortable in a chair, it is perfectly okay- no need to try a lotus posture and force your body unnecessarily. (Osho)
3. Yoga and meditation provide an opportunity to explore self
We are active member of materialistic and Apps enabled world. We are always in stress without a reason. We feel heavily stressed when we do not find our brush, toothpaste, tie, shoes or any other essential items at right place. Interesting fact of modern life is that we jump into a dying situation if we could not find our smart phone in our pocket. Most of the time, we communicate with outer world. Yoga and meditation provide an excellent opportunity to delve into one self, to examine oneself and to explore oneself for living a healthy and peaceful life.
4. Yoga and meditation always fortify our mind to think wisely and act wisely
Yoga and meditation develop positive perspectives and exhibit ways to look self and societal issues in a wider perspective. Meditation is way to move towards negative to positive perspective of life. Firstly, yoga and meditation purify our inner soul and mind. Secondly, it creates a space in our soul and mind. Positive attitude exists only in a healthy soul and mind.
5. The beauty of flexibility lies in yoga and meditation
Yoga and meditation make us flexible due its nature of flexibility. No need to worry about any materialistic items during performing yoga and meditation. Only we need a self awareness and self will power to keep us healthy, wealthy and wise.
6. A healthy and peaceful life without a price
Yoga and meditation are available for everyone beyond caste, creed, culture, economy based society and nation. We can do it at our own pace, place and price. It is we who decides whether we will practice yoga on a branded mat/a piece of cloth and on the grass in the lap of nature. Money is not an issue at all in practicing “Yoga and Meditation”. It is purely a gift from rich Indian cultural ethos of Patnajali to develop a pure soul and pure mind.
Yoga and Meditation become center to provide relax as well as a sense of relief in day to day life. Every year a number of researches have been carried out from all over world. People are keen to learn Yoga and Meditation in day to day life. Every year thousands of journals, e-journals are published. There is a huge demand of Yoga Gurus in all over world.
Westernized lifestyle and fast living have brought in stress in peoples’ lives and taken it to a whole new level today. Where earlier stress was a word used by a selected age group or those who worked long hours, today everyone from kids to highly aged people is well aware of stress or exhaustion. In such a scenario, Meditation subliminal relaxation has come up as a solution for fighting all the stress, pressures, fatigue and weariness people are experiencing these days.
In fact, meditation subliminal relaxation is one of the most effective relaxation techniques and has the power to heel psychologically. Before understanding about meditation subliminal relaxation and how it benefits you, you should know what relaxation techniques are and how and on what problems do they work.
Calming and soothing down mind and body when in an unstable or burned out situation is called relaxation and methods that can be used to achieve this heeling, is termed as relaxation techniques. Since the technique that is being discussed is subliminal relaxation or meditation subliminal relaxation, the problem that is to be cornered is more or mental and psychological. There is a bundle of relaxation techniques to fight those emotional and psychological stress and strain experienced by our mind, often these stress also lead to physical stress later on.
Usually relaxation techniques are designed in a way that they can even be used together or in combination. Mediation subliminal relaxation is one such safe and easy technique that works with the combination or conjunction of power of meditation and subliminal technology. While it is easy for a person to understand what meditation can do for budding stress and fatigue, not many know that subliminal technology is a relaxation technique in itself and can work wonders for those emotional imbalance of a tired and stressful brain.
India has many famous gurus in the field of Yoga and Meditation. Yoga institute of Munger (Bihar) plays vital role to spread qualities of yoga to the common man. Modern gurus like Shri Ravinsahnakr, Osho, Murari Bapu, Asharam Bapu and famous guru “ Ramdev” established “ yoga and meditation” on worldwide label. Even people from all over world are keen interested to have through research on Yoga and Meditation which will surely help the upcoming fast metro-look , metro sexual and pub styles kids.
Decision making is a life skill. Skill helps us to grow. Decision making involves thousand of factors. Educator integrates students’ subject knowledge i.e. facts, fiction, situations, illustrations and correlates them to real life situation for developing decision making skill. Educator nurtures each individual’s capacity to take a wise decision. Real story: 4 Young Girls of Class 5th Made a Difference
Four students of class 5th approached the principal to organize a cultural programme to celebrate ‘Teachers’ Day’ in the school. They were highly motivated and wanted to do something great for their teachers. Principal inquired minutely about the programme details. He decided to develop decision making skill among them. Principal asked them to chalk out everything related to the programme i.e. programme schedule, details of programme etc. The group decided everything minutely. Principal suggested girls to take help from educator for necessary modification. He deputed two teachers as observers. Group of 4 students took help from other students of their class, assigned duty and instructed them wisely. They organized programme exceptionally well.
It was a risk to give opportunity to a group of junior girls (5th class) to organize a cultural programme for almost 1000 students and more than 70 staffs; however he identified the calibre of students and took the risk for giving a golden opportunity for them. The principal identified, analyzed, evaluated their calibre, and trusted them, which resulted in a good cultural programme. Educator helps students. How we can do that?
1. Evaluate the calibre of students
2. Trust them, “yes they can”
3. Illustrate best possible alternatives
4. Sensitize them and lead them to the best possible point
5. Guide them to take decision carefully and deliberately
6. Give them space and time to think, to plan and to execute
Educator should sensitize students about the process of decision making. We can help them to work on the process. We can make them alert about the essential characteristics and ways of decision making. Ultimately an individual has to make decision while considering, time, situation, problems, facts, other related circumstances and consequence; moreover educator empowers individual to make an independent decision.
SEVEN-STEP PROBLEM-SOLVING, DECISION-MAKING PROCESS
1. Identify (recognize/define) the problem. 2. Gather information (facts/assumptions). 3. Develop courses of action (solutions). 4. Analyze and compare courses of action (alternatives/solutions). 5. Make a decision; select the best course of action (solution). 6. Make a plan. 7. Implement the plan (assess the results). http://www.au.af.mil/au/awc/awcgate/army/rotc_dm_ps.pdf
Educator should help students to understand the importance of decision making and decision making process to lead an integrated life. We have to accept the universal truth that “Nobody can decide anything for us. Of course, others can help us to do so, but the decision has to be ours. I am accountable for my destiny. It is “I” who has to take right decision at right time. We remember quotes of French philosopher, René Descartes (1596-1650) who proposed a ‘truth’: Cogito ergo sum (I think, therefore I am).
Educator should nurture the students to avoid a situation of “to be or not to be”. In fact, if a decision takes too much time then it is always inadequate. We cannot stop the right moment/right situation for our decision. Educator should instill the habit of taking right decision at right time. Of course a rational decision making situation needs time but what will be use of that decision if situation/things/professional deal goes beyond our reach. Educator nurtures each individual to take decision at right time and at right place.