Positive parenting revolves around understanding and responding to children’s needs with empathy, respect, and love. It encourages open communication, setting realistic expectations, and providing consistent support. Positive parenting contrasts with authoritarian styles, which often rely on strict rules and punishment, and permissive styles, which may lack structure and boundaries. Research indicates that children raised with positive parenting techniques exhibit better emotional regulation, higher self-esteem, and improved academic performance. A study by the Indian Journal of Psychiatry highlights that children with supportive parents are more likely to engage in school activities and perform well academically (Singh et al., 2019).
20 Multiple-Choice Questionnaire for Parents
Choose the option that best reflects your parenting style.
1. When your child forgets their homework, you usually:
a) Call the teacher to explain.
b) Rush to school to deliver it.
c) Let the child face the consequence and learn.
d) Do nothing but feel guilty.
2. If your child struggles with a puzzle or project, you:
a) Solve it quickly for them.
b) Guide step by step but take over when it’s hard.
c) Encourage them to try and let them fail safely.
d) Avoid giving them such challenges.
3. Who decides your child’s extracurricular activities?
a) You alone.
b) You and your child, but you influence heavily.
c) Your child decides with your guidance.
d) The school/coach decides.
4. When your child gets into a fight with a friend, you:
a) Call the other child’s parent.
b) Advise your child but also step in to solve it.
c) Encourage your child to resolve it themselves.
d) Tell them to stop having friends who fight.
5. If your child gets a poor grade, you:
a) Speak to the teacher to ask for leniency.
b) Do extra study with them but control the process.
c) Encourage self-study, reflection, and retry.
d) Compare them to others and push harder.
6. How do you react when your child feels sad or disappointed?
a) Immediately remove the cause of sadness.
b) Distract them with something fun.
c) Allow them to express emotions and learn to cope.
d) Tell them not to be silly.
7. During school projects, your role is:
a) Doing the work for them.
b) “Helping” until it looks perfect.
c) Acting as a resource/guide only.
d) Not involved at all.
8. When choosing a career path, you:
a) Decide what’s best for your child.
b) Strongly suggest options you approve.
c) Explore interests together, respecting their choice.
d) Leave it totally to the child without guidance.
9. Your child’s daily schedule is mostly:
a) Planned fully by you.
b) Shared control, but you dominate.
c) Flexible with child’s say included.
d) Completely unplanned.
10. If your child fails in a competition, you:
a) Complain about unfair rules.
b) Say “You should have tried harder.”
c) Celebrate the effort and discuss lessons.
d) Withdraw them from future competitions.
11. How often do you call teachers/coaches about small issues?
a) Very frequently.
b) Occasionally.
c) Rarely, only for serious matters.
d) Never at all.
12. Your child forgets lunch at home, you:
a) Drive to school to give it immediately.
b) Ask someone else to deliver it.
c) Let them manage with what’s available.
d) Feel guilty all day.
13. How do you feel when your child makes mistakes?
a) Embarrassed and anxious.
b) Try to fix the mistake for them.
c) Treat it as a learning opportunity.
d) Scold them to avoid repetition.
14. Who manages your child’s friendships?
a) You choose or reject friends.
b) You interfere when conflicts arise.
c) You advise but let them decide.
d) You stay indifferent.
15. Your child asks for help in writing homework. You:
a) Write it for them.
b) Give answers directly.
c) Ask questions to guide their thinking.
d) Refuse to help at all.
16. If your child has stage fear, you:
a) Tell the teacher not to make them perform.
b) Force them to perform anyway.
c) Encourage practice and gradual exposure.
d) Avoid stage events altogether.
17. When your child argues about a rule at home, you:
a) Say “Because I said so.”
b) End the argument with strictness.
c) Explain reasoning and listen to their view.
d) Remove rules altogether.
18. Your child is 12 and wants to buy something alone at a shop. You:
a) Say no, it’s unsafe.
b) Go with them but control the purchase.
c) Allow them with instructions and trust.
d) Let them go without any guidance.
19. If your child is late finishing a task, you:
a) Finish it for them.
b) Constantly remind and hover.
c) Let them face natural consequences.
d) Cancel the task altogether.
20. How do you define success for your child?
a) High grades, trophies, and recognition.
b) Secure job and good income.
c) Happiness, resilience, independence, and balance.
d) Doing what you couldn’t achieve.
| 1.C | 11.C |
| 2.C | 12-C |
| 3. C | 13-C |
| 4. C | 14-C |
| 5. C | 15-C |
| 6. C | 16-C |
| 7. C | 17-C |
| 8. C | 18-C |
| 9. C | 19-C |
| 10. C | 20-C |
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