“Love in the Time of Algorithms: Decoding Digital Romance”
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1. Situationship
A situationship is an undefined romantic connection between two people. It’s more than a friendship but doesn’t have the clarity or commitment of a relationship. There’s usually flirting, closeness, and shared experiences, but both people avoid labeling or defining the relationship.
Example:
Ravi and Simran are classmates who spend a lot of time together. They chat often, hang out during breaks, and share intimate moments like holding hands or exchanging texts. However, neither of them openly admits that they are dating. Their friends might ask if they’re in a relationship, but they’ll simply laugh it off or say, “We’re just friends.” The connection is clear, but there’s no exclusive commitment to each other. Ravi might even talk to other girls, and Simran doesn’t mind, as they both avoid having serious conversations about their status. This is a classic situationship – a romantic connection without the commitment or definition of a traditional relationship. It can be confusing, leaving both people unsure about where they stand, but they continue enjoying the bond they share.
2. Benchship
A benchship is when someone is not the primary romantic focus but is kept around as a secondary option or backup. They may not be the main “player” in someone’s life but are still available for companionship or attention when needed.
Example:
Neha and Arjun are classmates who have a close bond, but Neha has a crush on Ravi. Whenever Ravi is unavailable or not paying attention to her, Neha reaches out to Arjun for support, hanging out or talking to him. Arjun, though aware that Neha‘s heart belongs to someone else, continues to spend time with her and offer emotional support. Neha may treat Arjun as a friend, but the reality is that he is always available when she feels neglected by Ravi. Arjun is essentially benched in the background, waiting for a chance to “play” if needed, but never truly the primary focus of Neha‘s affection. This is the essence of a benchship – being around but never the first choice in a romantic relationship.
3. Ghosting
Ghosting occurs when someone suddenly stops all communication with another person without any explanation, often after a period of regular interaction. It leaves the other person confused and wondering what went wrong.
Example:
Priya and Manish had been chatting regularly and going out for movies together. One day, after a fun date, Manish suddenly stops responding to Priya’s texts and calls. He avoids her at school and doesn’t give any reason for his behavior. Priya is left wondering what happened and if she did something wrong. Manish never explains why he disappeared despite reaching out multiple times. This abrupt cessation of communication without closure is ghosting. It can be emotionally confusing and hurtful, as one person is left wondering whether they did something wrong or if the other person just lost interest. Ghosting has become a common way for people, especially in young relationships, to avoid difficult conversations or breakups.
Cushioning
Cushioning is when someone keeps other romantic interests on the side to cushion the emotional blow in case their main relationship doesn’t work out. It’s like keeping backup options in case things don’t pan out with the current partner.
Example:
Deepa is in a relationship with Amit, but she feels that things aren’t progressing well. While she doesn’t want to break up with him just yet, she starts chatting and flirting with Raj, another guy who she finds interesting. Raj doesn’t know about Amit, and Deepa doesn’t commit to either guy, but she enjoys the attention and keeps him around just in case things go wrong with Amit. If she decides to break up with Amit, Raj could be her backup option. This is cushioning – keeping a secondary romantic option available so you don’t feel emotionally vulnerable if your main relationship ends. It’s often seen as a way of staying emotionally safe, though it can be unfair to the other person involved.
5. Situationship to Relationship (STLR)
This term refers to the transition from a situationship to an official relationship. It’s the phase where two people who have been casually involved decide to make things more serious and official, with clear communication about exclusivity and commitment.
Example:
Shivani and Aakash have been spending time together for months, texting frequently, and hanging out during school. Initially, neither of them wanted to commit, and they often danced around the question of “Are we dating?” Over time, their bond deepens, and they realize they like each other a lot. One day, Shivani brings up the topic, asking Aakash if they should officially start dating. After talking it out, they both agree to move forward as a couple. This transition from an undefined situationship to a committed relationship is known as Situationship to Relationship (STLR). It marks the shift from a casual, uncertain connection to something more serious with mutual understanding and exclusivity.
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