Teen Mental Health- Triple TLC Techniques for Effective Healing- Three core life philosophies, (1) Talk, Tell, Telepathy, (2) Love, Listen and Laugh (3) Care, Compassion and Communication
What will happen to my result? Father, I am unable to practice mathematical problems? Ms. Sakshi was preparing for entrance test for taking admission in reputed engineering college but due to lockdown she could not return home and living in a girls’ hostel. Mr. Ramesh is brilliant student of class 9th. He is more talkative, brilliant and sports lover but he could not be able to sleep properly for last 7 days. Numerous parents are facing more or less same problems with their teens. I was talking to one of my 8th grade students. She was little scared and confused about syllabus completion and proper learning in online teaching process. Students are losing appetite for learning new things; parents are worried for their jobs, health, bank loan, EMI and other things. I am connected to thousands of students, family members, teachers, principals and people from other walks of life.
Ready to Reinvent, Recreate and Reconstruct in Life
It really surprised me that people become impatience and living in the time of insecurity and uncertainty. What will be next surprise? Will we able to re-establish ourselves? I firmly believe nothing has happened and nothing will happen but whatever we have now; feel it, share it, enjoy it and of course we grateful to Supreme power for being alive and living with our family members. God blessed us with so many beautiful things to celebrate it. What will happen if something destructed and destroyed by natural or human created calamity? Nothing! Human and humanity faced several challenges since beginning of its origin. We invented, reinvented, recreated and reconstructed everything and every time for ourselves.
21st Century Challenges for 21st Century Kids
21st century teens are smart, intelligent, and technological sound moreover a creative thinker. Google, YouTube, Quora, Instagram and other social platform are their friends and foe. No matter how much technocrat we are, but we are human. 21st century teens have emotion and passion, expectation, dream and ambition. When teens’ dreams is diminished and destroyed by human created or natural calamity. They find themselves in void and at dark. In fact, teen is another name of dream. Surprised changes brought mental pressure, mental health problems and psychological trauma in teens’ life? Can we find the solutions of various problems with teen? Can we develop partnership in his dream? Teens are wonderful, they are more skilled, more technocrat and more creative than us. They have only one problem; “having lack of experience” for something. Can we integrate our experience with teen’s expertise?
Child Mental Health and Philosophy to Heal out the Challenges
We are living in our home but unable to connect with each other within the family. We always try to find out various life problems’ solution on Google, YouTube and Quora, however solutions are in the family. We consult to doctor and psychologist. Yes, they are skilled people and they can guide us but what is harm in reflecting our own way of handling teens in our family. As a researcher, teacher, educationist gave me insight to handle these vulnerable teens. I have been working on three core life philosophies, (1) Talk, Tell, Telepathy, (2) Love, Listen and Laugh (3) Care, Compassion and Communication since 1999 to heal out teens’ problems, difficulties and challenges which a child face during challenging situations. Our care, compassion, and active listening bring great changes in a teen’s life.
(1) Talk, Tell, Telepathy
Talk, Tell, and Telepathy: — Do you remember when you have had a great talk with your child at home? When did you notice a behavioural change in your child? Have you noticed personally or your family member discussed with you? In fact we need to reflect and review these questions. Our teens have been carrying tonnes of tension, pressures and afflictions consciously or unconsciously. We need to spend time with kids. No matter whether you’re connected with physically, mentally or virtually but we need to talk, we need to observe, we need to tell and we need to show the right path at right time. It works a lot. Talking and telling develop telepathy and create a strong bond between child and parent.
(2) Love, Listen and Laugh
Listen, Love and Laugh: — How many times did you notice that your teen son/daughter wanted to share something with you? How many times you have paid attention towards the voice of your teen? Remember! When did you spend time merrily with your teen son/daughter? Remember! When did you laugh with your teen son/daughter on joyous incidents? Remember, your small gestures of positive attentiveness towards your teen thoughts, problems, challenges; your love and laughing moments with them can keep negative thoughts away not only from teens life but also develop positive and strong bond with you.
(3) Care, Compassion and Communication
Care, Compassion and Communication:– Amazingly, no one can blame a parent for not caring and not showing compassion for his/her teen son/daughter but of course problems of proper communication reflects most of the time between both. Teen is very much vulnerable. Teen may frame wrong hypothesis that his parents do not care for him. It may happen due to the nature of parenting. I firmly believe that parent’s care compassion, and communication can bring surprise change in teen’s temper, attitude and temperament. Teen can feel parent’s care and compassion during proper communication. Wise parent integrates his care and compassion during conducting communication with teen. This can be game changing act for teen’s mental health, mental wellness and overall emotional wellbeing.
Communication between teen and parent is one of the best medicines for every conflict and negativity. Communication fills the void. Communication brings liveliness in relationship. Communication is one of the greatest healers. Communication is naturopath, homeopath and effective therapists. Several challenges of life is directly disinfected and diluted through proper care, compassion and communication. Use this triple “TLC” philosophy for better mental health and emotional wellbeing of your “teen”.Rajeev Ranjan